Voice recovery

There Was a Meeting Early in my career, I sat in a conference room with twelve colleagues and a decision that needed to be made. I knew the answer. Not partially. Not as a hunch. I had done the research, run the analysis, and arrived at the meeting with the solution fully formed. I was ready. The facilitator opened the floor. I took a breath. And I waited. I waited for someone else to speak first. I waited to see how the room would receive the topic before I offered my positi

This article is the explanation I give to every new client who arrives at my practice, saying some version of 'I don't know why I can't speak up.' It is the context that changes everything, because you cannot recover a voice that you believe was never supposed to be loud in the first place.

You can spot silencing in therapy if you know what to look for.